Codependence is a deeply rooted, compulsive behavior that is
born out of a less than nurturing or abusive environment in childhood. A
child’s emotional development may be stunted due to the lack of nurturance, love,
guidance, support, and direction that his/her parents are supposed to impart on
the child’s life.
As a result of growing up in this environment, a child
develops into an adult who may display some or all of the characteristics outlined
below. Codependents:
- may not be aware of how they feel.
- tend to fear and/or worry how others may respond to their feelings.
- are not aware of their needs and wants.
- have difficulty having fun.
- judge themselves and/or others harshly.
- are terrified of being left or abandoned
- over react to changes over which we do not have any control.
- are extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.
- freely offer advice to others without being asked.
The major characteristics of codependence fall into four
categories: control, compliance, low self-esteem, and denial. The fellowship of
Codependents Anonymous has a self-evaluation tool.
Talk with a therapist or attend a CoDA meeting for a safe place to explore your
codependence.
Here is the link to the fellowship of Co-Dependents Anonymous.
Sincerely,
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