Like codependence, sex and love addiction is a process
addiction. Sex and love are primitive concepts that are natural and normal. A
person may be considered a “sex and love addict” if he or she uses sex, love,
and/or relationships as tools to escape painful feelings or augment pleasure.
These behaviors become addictive in nature: powerlessness and unmanageability
spread throughout. A sex and love addict
may be a person who engages in:
- compulsive masturbation
- obsessive porn viewing
- anonymous sex
- emotional dependency on another
- obsessive fantasy
As a recovering sex and love addict, I can say that the
process of uncovering all the behaviors I was powerless over was shocking and
mind numbing. I had recognized early on that my life seemed somewhat
unmanageable, but with new information I learned from my sponsor in CoDA and my
therapist, I became willing to see how dysfunctional my life truly was.
I found help in the rooms of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.
Here, I was able to sit amongst fellow sex and love addicts and it was as if
they all had my life. I wasn’t unique. After my first meeting I sat down and
took a 40
question self-assessment and my life changed forever and for the better.
I
got a clear picture of my life and my struggles. I also recognized that I could
recover. I just had to do the work. I am grateful for the program of SLAA and
CoDA. They helped save my life. I hope you find what you are needing in this
moment.
Check out the fellowship of Sex and Love Addicts
Anonymous.
Sincerely,
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